Celebrate the Holiday Baby!



Holidays are a time when many of us gather with with family and friends, when hearts are open, tables are full, spirits light and oxytocin flows just from being with those we care about and sharing meals and good times. For some families, babies arrive on the holiday to make the day even more special and significant then other years. For health care providers, doctors, nurses, midwives, doulas, birth photographers, lactation consultants and those that work with birthing families, holidays are often times spent away from their own friends and families so they can help women become mothers and see the birth of a family.

I have a clear recollection of being pregnant with my second daughter through the holidays of 2000. Grumpy, crabby, “done” with being pregnant, and very mad that everyone else seemed to be so festive and happy. Hard to make plans for holiday gatherings and meals, unwilling to have people over and not wanting to go elsewhere, I complained my way through each day, surprised like any other fully pregnant 40 weeker, that I would wake up each morning in my bed, “still pregnant.” I agreed to join friends for our traditional sushi rolling party that we did every New Year’s Eve, and pregnant or not, I was going to be rolling and eating sushi. Alas, baby felt like joining the party, and I went into labor New Year’s Eve. A slow labor ramp up seems to be the way my babies come, and I mildly contracted through the night, all New Year’s Day and into that night. As was the case, I seem to go from early labor to transition rather quickly and soon was pushing a baby out into the world in the pre-dawn hours on January 2nd. 01/02/01. Missing 01/01/01 by just a few hours. Missing the tax break and a New Year’s Eve baby by a day. Regardless, a memorable New Year nonetheless for myself and my family.

I sit now waiting for the call to join a client as her birth doula, as other women, clients of mine, tick the hours past the holiday celebrations, very pregnant and wondering if they too, will have a holiday baby.

As a doula for over 10 years, I have attended births on every holiday, my birthday, and my children’s birthdays, as those babies come when they want to, regardless of the plans of those of us on the outside!

I thought I would check in with those women who have given birth on a holiday like July 4th, Valentine’s Day, Christmas, New Year’s, Halloween and others to find out what their experience was like. And also ask those who themselves were born on a holiday, how has it been forever having their birthday associated with a holiday well known by many here in the US.

“I birthed on a holiday!”

Most of the women I spoke to who gave birth on a holiday had gone into labor spontaneously. Several of them had a long labor, for several days, with the baby making their appearance on the holiday. I wondered if they felt that their birth team minded not being with their family on the holiday. Everyone reported that, regardless of home birth or hospital birth, the birth team seemed very present, happy to be there and upbeat about welcoming the new baby. A few hospital birth mothers remarked at how empty and quiet the hospitals were during their births. Discharge seemed to take a bit longer and it was sometimes harder to be seen by a lactation consultant or other specialist. Some babies born on Christmas were given a green and white striped hat instead of the “normal” newborn baby hat after birth.

Many women talk about celebrating their child’s birthday on the original holiday date when the child is young, but as they get older, they have moved the celebration to a day that is not the holiday, so that friends and family are more available to join in the celebration. They shared that others seem “dismayed” that they gave birth on a holiday, expressed regrets for the child’s birth date, as if it was a bad thing.

I recall being at a birth on July 4th, and the baby was born about 30 minutes before the fireworks over the city were to happen.  The midwife and nurses turned off all the lights and we swung the mother’s bed completely toward the wall of windows, and the new family, and staff and I all watched the big fireworks show in silence, baby snuggled at mother’s breast.  I whispered in the baby’s ear later on, “Remember, these fireworks will always be to celebrate *your* special day!”

All the women I spoke to, who birthed on a holiday, made sure to comment and share that they felt it was important to have the baby pick its birth date, and be born when it is ready, even if that is a holiday. They all recognized what Lamaze speaks to when we share information in our Healthy Birth Practice, Let Labor Begin On Its Own.

The women all stated that they wanted to be sure that their child, born on a holiday, would always feel special and have celebrated, and not have their child’s birthday get lost in the shuffle of holiday celebrations.

“I was born on a holiday!”

I spoke with women who themselves were born on a holiday and they shared what it was like to have to share their birthday with a holiday that everyone was celebrating.  The folks who were born on Christmas or New Year’s shared that they frequently felt like their birthday got “overlooked” or “short shrift” in the celebrations of the season.  As a child, they often had to express their frustrations and share that they  needed their families to make their birthdays special, “If I was born in August, would you wrap my birthday gifts in Christmas wrapping?” said one woman.  Gifts often said “Merry Christmas and Happy Birthday.” One woman, born on New Year’s Day remarked; “At least I wasn’t born on Christmas!”

Many women who are born on other holidays, like Halloween or 4th of July, share that it was great fun growing up with that birthday date, and continues to be fun into adulthood.  One woman shared that being born on April Fool’s Day was not fun, and she got pranked a lot with empty boxes wrapped as presents and other jokes.  Not something she has enjoyed, and she shared; “I felt like my birthday was always a joke!”

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“I worked with birthing women on a holiday!”

I also spoke with health care providers, who shared that they enjoyed working on holidays, that facilities were often quiet, and low key, and the birthing families that they work with seemed extra appreciative of their support on the holiday.  They often wear a little something special to make things more festive, a Santa hat, or Halloween headband or an American flag on July 4th.  Sometimes, hospitals put something special on the meal tray, a flower or decorated cookie.  They are glad to be helping in any way they can.


I think that family and friends, and even the public makes a lot of comments to pregnant women who may find themselves likely birthing on a holiday, adding an extra layer of stress for these women, to what can already be a time period raw with emotion at the end of pregnancy. I am glad that these women are treated well by care providers.  None of the women who responded to my small, unscientific survey said that they felt pressure to induce to avoid a holiday birth date.

I think that as educators, we can stress that babies come when they come, and recognize the additional pressures that women may feel to birth or avoid birthing on a holiday date. We can provide tips on coping with holiday celebrations and plans when “very pregnant” and honor the emotions that some of the women may be experiencing.  Reassuring women that their babies know when to be born and helping them to prepare for however things unfold is a gift we can give to our students and clients.

Have you birthed on a holiday?  Were you born on a holiday?  Do you support birthing women and frequently work on a holiday.  Please share your experiences with all the readers in the comments and let us know what your experience was.  Is anyone waiting on a baby now? Do you expect to get called to a birth? Are you working in a hospital?  On call? Finally, a huge thank you to all the professionals who give up their holidays to support the new babies coming into the world.


Celebrate the Holiday Baby!

December 25, 2012 07:00 AM by Dawn
My dear friends just had their sweet baby girl on Christmas Eve. They were 40 weeks and some extra days, and left the house so excited. But, the quickly learned their little Onnalee had a still heart. So, my friends, who had been told the would not be able to get pregnant, had been trying for years, and had only adopted a new baby last May were now going to be finally seeing their own baby's face. They had Onnalee in the wee hours of the morning. Later that night, their adopted son was having breathing problems and he was taken to the ER, it was determined he has RSV, but he could go home on medication. The couple left the hospital today and spent part of Christmas at home. This are the very words of the mother: "I felt like I was in a safe bubble at the hospital. I was SO well cared for and nurtured, it was truly delightful. I had a lovely peaceful day, spent the morning alone watching Indiana Jones films and dozing. Celebrated Christmas in a calm quiet fashion. The harder part was gearing up to come HOME. A few of our incredible friends have combed through the obvious things in our home which needed to be placed away for now. The available folks from my family were at the house with us when we arrived here. We feel so comforted by all of this, including your love and compassion. When you are speaking of our story to others, or grieving on your own over this loss, please remember how grateful we are to have had Onnalee and this pregnancy. Onnalee and I were rocking a beautiful pregnancy. I have never felt so beautiful! Laboring and delivering was the most incredible moment of our lives. Seeing her was a dream come true. SO many gifts from God. And not a SINGLE one can ever be taken from us. Please grieve, but celebrate, too. We are. This needs to be Onnalee's living legacy, and God's shining glory. Much love, friends. Pray for us as we proceed with planning a memorial service."

Celebrate the Holiday Baby!

December 27, 2012 07:00 AM by Chris
I was born 2 minutes after midnight on New Year's Day (a long time ago!), the first baby of the new year, with newspaper picture and gifts and all :-) My family lived in NY at the time, and there was a big snowstorm. My dad, bless his heart, had a bit too much celebration and was found passed out in the open doorway along with a bunch of snow. In the years to come, my birthday got lost in the celebration of Christmas, New Year's Eve and football games. When I began practice as a Nurse-Midwife, I always elected to be on-call on New Years Eve and Day, so I could celebrate my birthday with a new little person, and make that family's celebration of birth as wonderful as I could. I continue to be available to families at the New Year, and hope to do so for years to come. Happy Birthday, babies, you've made the New Year especially happy for me!

Celebrate the Holiday Baby!

December 28, 2012 07:00 AM by Katie B
Funnily enough, this posted just a little while after I pushed my Christmas baby Earthside!

Celebrate the Holiday Baby!

December 29, 2012 07:00 AM by deborah
My birthday is early January, and I frequently got bday gifts at Christmas, in Christmas wrap with the choice to 'open it now or save it' as if a child can really make that decision!! [I actually go that AGAIN just this year! but I can easily wait now:) ] My family seemed to combine my bday, but as I grew my mother always made sure I had a little party with friends, she was a great party planner. Once grown I resolved NOT to have a baby during the Nov.-Jan months [and made it clear to my dh as well] which blessedly worked out. However, I would have made sure to keep the bday and the holiday separate had it been the case. I do have 2 children that share a birthday- and they have loved it. We celebrated it together or separately depending on their age and situation. Whether you do a party, just acknowledge the day, or something in between, I think it is very important to mark birthdays as a special occasion.

Celebrate the Holiday Baby!

December 29, 2012 07:00 AM by Becky
@Dawn Dawn, how sad. Unfortunately, the only family I know personally who had a baby born this holiday season also had a baby son born still on Christmas Day. I think the holiday season will only make their grief even more difficult to bear in the the years to come.

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